Josh Paul
Robert Catlin
Essay
March, 13, 15

How much freedom should parents give their children?

In this modern society, there are two kinds of parents, one of them give full freedom to their children, let them go and do whatever they want. Another is by holding them tight and not giving them any freedom. There are both good and bad consequences for each other, and it is a very important choice, how much freedom should parents give their children.
Most of the parents do not give too much freedom to their children. They are afraid that children will behave badly after they have what they want. Moreover, they also concerns about their safety because there are too many dangerous things happen in the modern society. We might hear the term “helicopter parents”:  “applies to far more than those who hover relentlessly over their childcare’s academic and musical development.” The first of its series, the 10-year-old boy Sam whose mother does not allow him to do almost every thing for instance, his mother “wouldn’t let him ride a bike, cut up his own meat” because she worries that Sam might get hurt. Not surprisingly, “the plea from a stressed-out, thwarted Sam: I just want to do things by myself.”
But, if parents indulge children too much or give them too much freedom, what the consequence would be? The behavior of those children; lack of empathy, bragging, do not know how to deal with self emotion, defend other people when they grow up. According to the professor of National Taiwan University psychology professor Lei Geng Ling said” too much emphasis on the child's emotional, it's easy too spoiled, hurt child feeling...”. Besides, giving too much freedom to children easily lead bad grade because no body would take care of their academic development. Lacking of academic pressure also “lowers their self-evaluation, competency assessment. They might give up themselves or see another accomplishment. “Said Yang Xiu Yao Education Association Taipei Office Director.”
Too much or less of freedom would cause problems. Giving some of the freedom but not giving all is the best choice. Although it is a vague question because there is difficult for parents to measure the percentage of freedom should give to children. The truth is, children during teenagers are looking for ego, peer identification and need more approval and freedom, they would fight for anything and get what they want from their parents. Parents have to be smart to examine how much should be let go, the time that should be or should not be.
There is not right or wrong answer; it is just a good or bad decision. One important decision might affect the entire of life children. This is why it is a serious decision to make for parents.
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